Be More Empathetic in 3 Steps

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For me, empathy is one of the most endearing qualities a human being can exude. Don’t you think? Easier said than done, I know, but here are some simple ways I try to practice and improve my empathy.

1. Watch the news

Open your eyes to what’s going on in the world around you. It’s so easy to limit your worldview, but it’s equally as easy to expand it. Watching, reading, or following various news sources will help you better understand the lives of other people.

2. Active listening

Have you ever been in a conversation and you catch yourself just waiting for a pause so you can say what you think? While this doesn’t condemn you to an identity as a narcissist, it’s not the best way to be a good friend and practice empathy. Instead of thinking how someone’s story relates to you, try making it completely about them. Ask follow up questions, show you’re listening (no scrolling allowed), and really invest in what they’re taking the time to tell you.

3. Practice taking on different perspectives

This is huge for me. If you are facing a difficult decision or situation try to keep everything in perspective. If someone is rude to you, try to remove yourself from the scenario and understand where they are coming from. I truly believe people are naturally good, it’s just sometimes their actions are taken without thinking about their motivations behind them.

 

I know this post is a bit out of context here. But my life isn’t one dimensional, so I don’t think this blog should be either.

Do you have any tips on practicing empathy?

 

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5 Binge Worthy Shows

5. Master of None

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Aziz Ansari’s latest project is basically a twenty something’s anthem. In the brief 10 episodes, this show covers all the hot-button current issues from racism, to not giving enough shits about our grandparents.

4. Scandal

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Following Shonda’s typical style, Scandal is drama-filled and chuck full of plot-twists. The series follows super-smart, super-fashionable, and ultra-lovable Olivia Pope as she fights against the evil that is Washington DC politics.

3. Parks and Recreation

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Need a little light-hearted, heartwarming comedy? Parks and Rec is sure to deliver lots of laughs and good feels. The series follows the life of Leslie Knope, a low-level government employee who cares more about her town than you care about anything. With each passing season, the cast continues to grow more lovable, and more complex.

2. Grey’s Anatomy

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This is a show that has no re-run limit. I’ve probably seen every episode a minimum of 3 times. We’re dragged through the trenches following the lives of multiple swoon-worthy doctors. They somehow defy all odds and survive a shit-ton of life threatening scenarios (SO MUCH DRAMA), fall in and out of love with each other, and build and breakdown friendships. It’s everything your little heart could desire.

1. Gilmore Girls

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The perfect mix of comedy, drama, and romance! All delivered by a fast-talking, coffee-drinking, junk food-eating mother daughter duo who you can’t help but love. The series is as much a coming of age story, as it is a wtf do I do with my life series. Follow along, fall in love, and skip season six.

Thoughts & Feelings: The Wedding Industry

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This one goes out to all my past brides, brides-to-be, and anyone else who will be throwing a giant-ass party to celebrate the greatest human emotion – unconditional love.

One would think that such a pure and heartfelt event like a wedding would be mirrored by the industry that surrounds it. But you’d be wrong. Like really, really wrong. The entire industry is one HUGE up-charge. Venues clear well-over 5k, photographers are another 2.5k (minimum), and don’t even get me started on filming your special day. Want to feed your guests with tasty food? And maybe even give them a place to sit? – it’ll cost you about the same as a used car (if not more).

I’m only in the beginning stages of wedding planning, and I want it to be really fun! I want it to be a silly adventure, and I want the entire process to be like one longgg day dream. But, as the song goes “you can’t always get what you want.”

So please send good vibes, cash moneyz, or your services free of charge (looking at you photographers).

K thanks.

Thoughts & Feelings: Back-to-School Nostalgia

With back to school season in full swing, I’m left with an intense feeling of nostalgia. Is it just me, or is everyone else also victim to this wave of memories of bonfires, back to school shopping, and high school football games?

Childhood

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I had a ridiculously good childhood *thanks parents.* Every year, the day before school started: Kayla, my dad, and I would have our Ultimate Day of Fun. Which included mini golf, go-karts, and shopping. Does it get better than that? I remember being super excited to go back to school every year *nerd alert.* Because after a long summer, school meant seeing all of my friends consistently, art classes, and a new teacher (I never got placed with the teacher I wanted, forever bitter about that).

Teen Years 

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With the start of high school, our Ultimate Day of Fun was discontinued because of fall sports which always started a few weeks before the actual school year. I’ve always loved learning, and not to toot my own horn, but I was a ridiculously good student *toot*toot.* A new year meant new teachers, new subjects, but old friends (thanks AP bubble).

College Time

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I went to school in a small Wisconsin town. I absolutely loved it there! My boyfriend/BFF was there, I was super involved on campus, and I loved both of my majors (advertising & psych). Going back to school each year kind of reaffirmed my independence away from home. It’s my second fall not returning to campus, and I’m gunna be real with you, it still feels weird.

Do you have any fun fall memories?

3 Things I Would/n’t Change

I know, I know, I know. You should love and accept exactly who you are. Whether that be your looks, personality, intelligence, job, or whatever. But don’t we all have those few things about ourselves that we wish we could just change? I sure hope I’m not the only one…

/// 3 Things I would change ///

1. My body type

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UH DUH. Pretty sure everyone has things about their body they would change. Mine would be my frame. As told to me by scientific proof (measuring the distance between my elbow bones), I have a wide body frame. I’d definitely opt to change that one. Gimmeee those long ass legz plz.

2. My anxiety

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I worry. I worry a lot, a lot. So much so that it gets a bit annoying. For example, I have to check my purse for my wallet multiple times, or know where my keys are if I wake up at 3AM. I don’t think I have OCD, but I definitely am a bit of a worry wart. I try to chill. To get perspective, but sometimes I just wish it came more easily to me.

3. My bank account

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How cool would it be to not have to worry about money, ever?! You could buy everyone you love presents, or donate to charities, and I’m not trying to go all Mother Theresa on you because obviously you could also spend a shit ton on yourself. The idea of being able to live without constantly thinking about income would be really neat.

/// 3 Things I wouldn’t Change ///

1. My Relationships

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I’ve really lucked out in this category. I have great friends, family, and even an awesome boytoy friend. I wouldn’t trade them for any of the above.

2. My Work Ethic

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Holy Sh*t guys I am a hardcore worker. Focused, determined, and a self-starter, not to toot my own horn, but TOOT TOOT. Just for proof: I graduated top of my high school class #3 & I graduated from university in 3 years, with 2 degrees, and the highest honors.

3. My Language

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After spending a year living abroad in Spain, more on that to come in the future, I am so grateful/happy/#blessed to be a native English speaker. It really is the language of the world, of business, of travel, and media. So I’m pretty pumped I understand and speak it nearly perfectly.